Fifty Shades of Grey. What is the appeal of a possessive man? It’s not difficult to understand Christian Grey appeal when you see him for a first time. He is young, handsome, smart, and rich. However, once you know him better why don’t you run away? Christian Grey needs to have everything under control.
According with Fifty Shades of Grey books, Anastasia Steele falls in love with him. She is unexperienced and she submits to him. However, her innocence is not an explication to understand this submission. What is the appeal of a possessive man as Christian Grey?
Everyone, men and women, we fear to freedom (don’t you remember Escape from Freedom by psychologist and social theorist Erich Fromm?). In a point, we like to be directed, even dominated if this domination is sweet. But once the domination starts it’s difficult to know its limits, and that’s one of Anastasia Steele problems.
Furthermore, we need to believe in the goodness of others: then, if we are good and obey, they’ll treat us well. This is not always true, and we have a responsibility to take care of ourselves. The others are not our kind parents. Now, we are adults and free people, although we do not like it, and we’d prefer to be locked into the old nursery. Anastasia Steele doesn’t want to grow up.
Symptoms of perversity end badly. There may be no limits, and knowing the hell is not a good curiosity.
However, Anastasia Steel wants to know, and probably she thinks she can be smarter than the devil. Women have a tendency to believe that we can change (re-educate) men. Maybe it’s the maternal instinct. But Anastasia is wrong in Fifty Shades of Grey! Do you remember that quote: “When I was a young man, I wanted to change the world. I found it was difficult to change the world, so I tried to change my nation. When I found I couldn’t change the nation, I began to focus on my town. I couldn’t change the town and as an older man, I tried to change my family. Now, as an old man, I realize the only thing I can change is myself.”
Definitely, what is the appeal of Christian Grey, main character of Fifty Shades of Grey? A mix of insane curiosity, the fear of freedom, and our remote instincts.
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